Showing posts with label happiness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label happiness. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Following Brooke



I doubt if anyone who attended Fast and Testimony Meeting in our ward Sunday came away unmoved. If so, I have to think that he or she has a cold, cold heart or serious struggles with “the adversary.” One of the things I love so much about these meetings is that I get to learn what’s in the hearts of others…how they really feel about life, their families, and of course the gospel of Jesus Christ. Some people express gratitude, and others share struggles and concerns.

Time prohibits a full account of all of the testimonies I heard, so I’ll just share a couple that are on my mind today. Let’s start with yours truly. I had actually forgotten that it was F & T Sunday until I arrived, and as soon as I was reminded of it, I thought something like, “Oh great. I love to hear what my fellow church members have to say.” Almost instantly, I recalled something I’d read in one of Henry B. Eyring’s books about listening to others, something about how God will speak to you when and if you earnestly listen to the words of others when they are speaking about Him and/or spiritual matters. It occurred to me that it’s not fair to always be on the listening side and that I needed to share my testimony with my ward family.

Anxiety kept me in my seat for about two minutes until I remembered my sweet little granddaughter Brooke. Though only 5, she often bravely walks up on the stand and tells the congregation how much she loves Jesus…and her family. What a great role model! I shared several thoughts with the congregation Sunday, but the primary one was that regardless of what kind of suffering, pain, loss, heartache, disappointment, or despair, there is only one source of solace. I don’t know the reason for so much pain and evil in the world; I only know that without some sort of faith in a Supreme Being, you’re in for a much rougher road.

*Kitty talked about the power of prayer and how she’d felt its power so many times in her life.
*Mari, a lovely young woman, began her testimony in a way that reflected my feelings to a tee. She said she had felt compelled to come to the front, and yet when she got there and saw all of the people staring at her, she thought something like, “Am I really up here? How did I get here????” Anyway, one of the many things she said that found me nodding in agreement is she knew every person there was anxious for her success and happiness, and that although she didn’t know everyone, she knew that every single person would stand behind her…and would help her if necessary. She’s right, you know. I’ve felt that unity many times.
*Then there was Willette whose words made me chuckle a little. She shared that when her son was on his mission, she and her husband Larry vowed to bring as much harmony and peace into their lives as possible. They decided to begin singing a Primary song, I’m Trying to be Like Jesus, every time either of them raised their voice, began gossiping, acting uncharitable, etc. She said she bet they sang that hymn a million times!
*Izzy spoke of her love for the gospel and her deep gratefulness of how it had come into her life.
*Joann told of some of her challenges in life and of how thoughts of Joseph Smith and his unflinching courage had often strengthened her. She shared a specific example of how painful a “tar and feather” incident had been, especially when his wife Emma unavoidably removed pieces of his flesh when peeling off the tar.

We closed the last meeting, Relief Society, with Love One Another, and I left the building buoyed up by the music, words, hugs, smiles, talks, lessons, and prayers of the morning. It’s only Tuesday, and I’ve been annoyed and irritated plenty of times since then. But you know what? I think of Willette and Larry singing and find myself humming the tune to their song.

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Freedom to Choose


I feel okay about the lesson I taught in Relief Society earlier today. No, wait, let me rephrase that. I think the lesson that the sisters and I taught in Relief Society went well today. In our ward, we “never walk alone,” so to speak. Anyone who’s ever taught in Camden knows that she can count on relevant participation from the class. Whether it’s sharing a story, reading a scripture, adding insight, or answering a question, we help each other.

Today the lesson was entitled “Freedom to Choose,” and before I’d gone too far into the lesson, Anita mentioned that while we’re free to choose our behavior, we’re not free to choose the consequence. So true! Hoping that someone would say that, I had actually put a stick in my bag as a visual aid. I held up the stick and said, “You can’t pick up one end of a stick without picking up the other.” You can’t choose a course of action without also picking up a consequence.

Naturally, we want the consequences to be good ones. We want to feel peace, joy, happiness, discernment, and the presence of the Holy Ghost as our companion. How can we do this? It’s simple. We need to learn and obey the commandments. From the lesson manual, God’s “commandments direct us away from danger and towards eternal life. We will gain exaltation, progress eternally, and enjoy perfect happiness.” Is there anyone out there who doesn’t want that??? I think it was Brigham Young who so aptly said, “If you want to enjoy the favor of our Heavenly Father, do His will.”

And how do you know His will? You search, ponder, and pray. You read scriptures, listen to uplifting talks, read inspirational literature, contemplate what you’ve read, and pray. Pray for guidance, for help with your family, for answers to questions, for clarity of thought, and for anything else you need. There’s nothing too small (or too large) to take to God in prayer.

Sometimes people get exasperated and impatient when they don’t immediately receive positive consequences for their choices. They don’t realize that there’s most often a space between the action and the consequence. As President Ezra Taft Benson said, “One of the trials of life is that we do not usually receive immediately the full blessing for righteousness or the full cursing for wickedness. That it will come is certain, but ofttimes there is a waiting period that occurs, as was the case with Job and Joseph.”

This post could go on and on, but I need to wrap it up and go for a walk. In the meantime, thanks to Joann, Cookie, Willette, Anita, Vickie, Martha, Cookie, Joy, Brenda and Sue for your comments and to the rest of the class for their attentiveness. We’re all in this together, and it’s wonderful to be a part of a sisterhood that helps me make good choices.

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Be Happy

What do we really know about Eve? She was formed of Adam’s rib, ate the forbidden fruit, and was the mother of Cain, Abel, Seth, and undoubtedly others. This month our book club discussed Mark Twain’s The Diary of Adam and Eve, and even though Twain’s account was amusing and speculative, it did give me a lot to think about. Thanks for choosing it, Kathy.

Since I often think of her as “Mother Eve,” I zeroed in on some quotes that demonstrate a kinship between us. One of them is, “At first I couldn’t make out what I as made for, but now I think it was to search out the secrets of this wonderful world and be happy and thank the Giver of it all of devising it.” That seems so appropriate for this time of year, and I’m going to follow my young friend Kristi’s example and come up with at least as many things I’m thankful for as there are days in the month. I think Eve would like that.

1. A warm, reliable car
2. A warm, cozy home
3. DH and his many contributions towards making our home a more beautiful place
4. John and Margie, my parents
5. Edward and Edna, my children’s grandparents
6. L.C. and Mary, maternal grandparents
7. Woodell and Beatrice, paternal grandparents
8. Cell phones
9. Carrie and her creativity
10. Rich and his devotion to his family
11. Elizabeth and her poise and grace
12. Paul and his conscientiousness
13. Amanda and her musical gifts
14. Spencer and his mission
15. Braden’s dimples
16. Brooke’s cloud of blond curls
17. Emma’s cuddly little body
18. DH’s children and grandchildren
19. The gospel of Jesus Christ
20. Friends
21. Laughter
22. My siblings and their spouses and families
23. Love, the most important force in the universe
24. Color
25. America and the opportunity to live here
26. All things Southern-yes, even grits
27. My mother’s cornbread recipe
28. The ability to read
29. Words, words, words
30. Memories…and the absolute marvel of the human brain to help us recall them.

Believe it or not, I had to take few things off of my list and combine others so that I could limit my entries to 30. What about you? What are some things that you could thank the Giver of all things for? I think Eve was right on target when, according to Twain, she said we were meant to be happy, and I feel that enumerating our bounteous blessings in this wonderful world will help us to experience more happy than sad moments.